What scares you the most?
The truth is that every one of us has something that we’re afraid of. It can be something real and tangible, or it can just be some of the thoughts we carry around in our heads.
Either way, choosing to let that fear dominate and debilitate you creates a vibration that only brings more of that fear into your life.
Are you willing to let that fear go?
Face Your Fears Head-On
The first thing to do is to determine if this fear is a real fear or an imagined fear.
If, for instance, you live with someone who hits you, that is a real fear. On the other hand, if you are simply afraid to get up in front of a group of people and speak, that’s an imagined fear.
One may be easier to overcome than the other, but they are both examples of fears that can be addressed and overcome.
Perhaps you are a writer and you are afraid to submit your manuscript because you fear being rejected. The solution, of course, is to simply send off the manuscript anyway. Keep in mind that many authors have been rejected numerous times until they met with success.
But something else you CAN do when sending off that manuscript is to imagine how wonderful it is going to feel when it is accepted for publication. Create that feeling every day. FEEL how joyful you will be when the the right publication, at the right time, says “yes” to publishing your manuscript — and then pays you handsomely for it!
And you will find that each feeling experience will make you stronger for the next.
One of the best ways to overcome a fear is to simply acknowledge that it’s there. Do not be ashamed of your fear. Know that it is real and it exists in your life. If you are afraid of heights or small spaces, that is nothing to be ashamed of — it is simply part of who you are.
But be careful here if you share your fears with others. Do not share anything about yourself with someone who will discount what you are saying or diminish you in some way. That would only reinforce your fear.
Remember, we often have to first acknowledge what we don’t want before we can get what we DO want. So if your fear is holding you back in some way, acknowledge it, notice how this fear makes you feel, then make a conscious effort to decide how you would rather feel whenever this fear comes up.
You’ll notice if you write out the word attraction, that the last part of that word spells -action.
So once you have acknowledged your fears and faced them head-on, continue to take small action steps daily to change your feelings around your fears to the ones you’d rather have.
Or if what scares you is not something that happens on a daily basis, just be aware of when it does rear it’s ugly head and remember how you want to feel about it, taking steps to change those feelings for the better.
And push yourself a bit. When faced with a choice of the elevator or the stairs, take the elevator if you are typically afraid to do so. It may mean waiting for someone else to ride up with you to help tamp down the fear, but that’s okay. Don’t let your fears be bigger than you are!
And back to an earlier example, if you are being abused in a relationship you have every right to be fearful, and simply changing your mind about it is not likely to rectify the situation. Remember, we can only change ourselves, no one else. And this is a bigger problem that really has nothing to do with you personally.
Perhaps a better step would be to remove the reason for the fear altogether. So a small first step in taking action might be to secretly make that phone call to the help center for a safe, escape plan.
Most of us are not likely facing such extreme circumstances. Our fears typically take the form of something that just drags our lives down. So whatever your fears are, remember that it isn’t just a matter of changing your mind about them or the way you think about them, but rather, harnessing the way those fears make you feel.
And then doing something about changing those feelings for the better.
Publisher of Great Living Today, your one-stop source for greater living featuring tips, techniques, and programs in the areas of health & wellness, wealth, time management, business, love, relationships, and happiness. Marty is a life, business, and wellness coach helping his clients to live their best lives.